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Brown Bag It & Learn, a series of lunchtime conversations

January 25   Understanding Men Better, with Bill Bumiller, MFT

February 8   The Art of Forgiveness, with Bill Bumiller, MFT

February 22  Last Women Standing, What You Need to Know Before you need to Know it! With Lorie Homer Kraus, Estate Planning & Administration

Put Friendship on your To-Do List

Erica W. Jamieson
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Women's friendships

2018 was a pivotal year for women. It’s no wonder that along with raising voices for sexuality, in politics and in the workplace, we have also raised the mantle for women’s friendships and community. One of the unique components in creating community for women is how quickly we click. Like LEGO pieces snapping together to …

Technology Can’t Hug Back!

Erica W. Jamieson
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This week is about Family Time and friends! This story is about disconnecting. This post is intentionally short because you shouldn’t be hidden behind a screen this week. Go light up the faces of your family and friends by giving them the gift of you. Turn off your technology! The next seven days, between Christmas …

Feel the Tingling of a New Year!

Erica W. Jamieson
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Welcome the New Year by celebrating the old! New Year’s Eve is two weeks away. 2018 will be put to bed with the same fanfare that I used to put my children to bed. Celebrations and negotiations! Remember those days? The navigations in getting them in the bathroom washed and PJ’ed. The negotiations over what …

Finding balance in life, like being told to be more present, is a great destination if you can get there. Without a roadmap it’s like wandering lost with a dead iPhone and no GPS to guide you. As a Life Coach, Death Doula and educator I strive to help my clients create that roadmap. I …

Women over fifty are mobilizing! I find myself distracted lately at coffee shops where young women are working together, plucking at their phones, planning and scheming for new campaigns or other projects. It makes me want to shout. Watch Out, we are coming for your youth! Women over fifty may be getting older, but we …

photo credit rawpixel Beware: old people having sex and they may be your parents! Empty nesting was supposed to mean running naked through the house. Sex with open doors. Kissing in the kitchen without the threat of a child’s scorn and loud, “Ew, that’s gross!” Instead, you find yourself with house-mates, your adult children! If …

A Vision Board Skeptic No More

Erica W. Jamieson
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Vision Board

My vision board started out as an empty canvas as they always do. I was at a visioning event hosted by the Temple Isaiah Women’s Group. Amy Phillips, an artist, a communications specialist and the founder of Girl Empowerment LA., was our facilitator. In preparation, we were asked to write our response to seven prompts …

Living with devastating loss is like dancing on a trap door. One moment I feel light hearted and weightless and the next, like I’m falling fast onto the shards below. Since my son’s death fifteen years ago, I’ve discovered that when I dance more I fall less. Dancing allows me to see myself in a …

I have been afraid of the water since I was six years old and my mother carried me out in the Atlantic Ocean to “teach me to swim.” She took me to where it was over my head and up to her neck. Dropped me there before she turned and walked back to the beach. …

Why I Love Bike Commuting in Boston

Lisa Mae DeMasi
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bike commuting

Commuting to work on my bike has brought my competitive spirit back—a quality I thought I left behind on the softball field my senior year in high school. My heart pounds in excitement as I gear up to ride, just like it did when I stepped up to the plate. The ride into Harvard Square …

Fearless Flying

Fearless Flying brought a group of women together to celebrate the launch of Fiftiness! Behind the screen at Fiftiness, we always knew that we wanted to get off the page and gather women in a room together, doing something. There is magic that occurs when we are in action, talking, laughing, and most importantly, learning from …

Triathlon

 An Athlete (temporarily) interrupted by injuries and illness, I roared back at 50 with my first sprint triathlon Three strokes, inhale on the left, three strokes, inhale on the right. That’s my normal swimming pattern, but I’m not in the pool anymore. Each time I come up for air saltwater fills my nostrils, threatening to sink …

Walking Practice

How to Create a Walking Practice and Make it a Natural, Enjoyable Part of Your Day Find your natural rhythm Figure out the best times to walk for your schedule. Maybe it’s first thing in the morning. Or with your kids on the way to school. After lunch. Taking the dog out. After dinner.  Before bedtime. …

Motivation Flagging?

Motivation Flagging? It’s Time for You to Fall in Love with Fitness When you are motivated, you make a million fitness goals. You buy new workout clothes, you join a gym, you plan to go to a spinning class or learn how the free weights can work for you. You are ready! But, it usually …

New Career & New Body in her 50's

Sometimes the best gift you give yourself is accepting a bit of help. Dana Rahe reshaped her 50’s by hiring a personal trainer. . .   Something clicked as I was approaching 50. In large part, it was the encouragement of my family, but also, it was just time – time for me to get …

It’s Day 31 of our Just One Thing Challenge – How making one small, maintainable change can have huge effects… Every heard of the butterfly effect? The idea that small causes can have large effects. It’s been said that the flapping of the wings of a butterfly on one side of the planet can cause …

Once upon a time, aging gracefully meant acceptance. A woman simply accepted a few more wrinkles, a few more pounds and little less hair through her 50’s and 60’s. She acquiesced to those changes and she wore them proudly as women had done for centuries, wearing their age as badges of wisdom and experience. Women …

Yoga For The Body You Have Today

Kimberly Dark
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Teaching yoga, it is not unusual to witness yoga students over age fifty struggling into poses that likely sent them searching for the icepack later. Most recently, it was a man and two women. I’m guessing about their ages; over fifty is erring on the side of youth. The man was straining in an easy-to-categorize …

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Do one thing. That was my mantra. Make one small, truly manageable change. I began with coffee. Coffee had been the scrooge of my existence since I was child. It was something I associated with my father and not in a good way. I was shocked to find that my days had become dictated by …

Antioxidants in nut

Brazil Nuts are loaded with Selenium one of nature’s antioxidants It’s an age old pursuit. For generations we have sought a magic pill to keep us healthy and promote longevity. We often jump onto nutritional trends in an effort to find the ever-illusive magic potion. Sometimes even rushing in without all the facts. This can be tricky …

healthy bites

Okay, so healthy bites will never be Oreos! But these delicious no bake, high energy bites make a great snack that might possibly convert (most of) your Oreo eating family and friends. I was so tired of scanning the shelves at the grocery store for healthy snacks without all the extra added sugar and preservatives that …

Curb sugar cravings

Who hasn’t found themselves in front of the fridge, pantry or the pastry cabinet of their favorite coffee shop feeling overwhelmed and defeated by insanely strong sugar cravings? Here’s three tips to help when sugar seems to be calling your name… #1: Check your Beverages! Sounds crazy, but sometimes sweet cravings are a sign of dehydration. …

Invest In Yourself With A Good Lunch!

Erica W. Jamieson
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Invest in yourself with a good lunch

Invest in Yourself with time for exercise & for healthy eating because you are worth it! Everything involves an investment. For lunch today I had a herb crusted halibut taco (mixed grain tortilla) topped with feta cheese and Mexican spiced cabbage slaw. It was an assembly lunch made from leftovers. It took about ten minutes to …

Put Friendship on your To-Do List

Erica W. Jamieson
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Women's friendships

2018 was a pivotal year for women. It’s no wonder that along with raising voices for sexuality, in politics and in the workplace, we have also raised the mantle for women’s friendships and community. One of the unique components in creating community for women is how quickly we click. Like LEGO pieces snapping together to …

Feel the Tingling of a New Year!

Erica W. Jamieson
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Welcome the New Year by celebrating the old! New Year’s Eve is two weeks away. 2018 will be put to bed with the same fanfare that I used to put my children to bed. Celebrations and negotiations! Remember those days? The navigations in getting them in the bathroom washed and PJ’ed. The negotiations over what …

Finding balance in life, like being told to be more present, is a great destination if you can get there. Without a roadmap it’s like wandering lost with a dead iPhone and no GPS to guide you. As a Life Coach, Death Doula and educator I strive to help my clients create that roadmap. I …

white teeth

Is My Smile Aging, Too? My godmother was thrilled when she chipped her front teeth. After the initial shock of having tripped on cracked pavement in a restaurant parking lot, she said, “Now I can have my smile back!” I didn’t understand what she meant until she explained while sitting in my dental chair. “My …

A Vision Board Skeptic No More

Erica W. Jamieson
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Vision Board

My vision board started out as an empty canvas as they always do. I was at a visioning event hosted by the Temple Isaiah Women’s Group. Amy Phillips, an artist, a communications specialist and the founder of Girl Empowerment LA., was our facilitator. In preparation, we were asked to write our response to seven prompts …

I grew up in a culture that did not encourage women to travel, especially not without a man by her side. Though I constantly staggered under the weight of these archaic, conservative norms, there was a part of me that longed to fly. Lulled by the tropical sun in my small hometown, I dared to …

Fear is not an ingredient!

I was with a group of people recently when I heard someone say, about someone else, “She can cook, but she sure can’t bake.” This struck me as utterly absurd. Both involve ingredients and measuring and mixing, I wanted to (inexplicably) yell. Both depend upon stoves or ovens to bring their magic to completion! In …

Live 10,000 Extraordinary Days

Erica W. Jamieson
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Extraordinary mornings

More Extraordinary Birthday Reflections, this time from a 54 yr old! You should buy yourself a random gift on your birthday. I did that today. My fifty-fourth birthday. I packed up the husband and the college freshman (home on spring break) and drove to the desert. We live in one of those pleasant states where …

Turning 50

Turning 50 in 50 days, I remembered the art of gratitude & forgiveness I found my “Fiftiness” this morning folded into child’s pose on a dog-hair covered area rug on my family room floor. It was in the dark quiet stillness of those moments before the sun peaks into the front windows and the shower …

You Unstuck

The start of every New Year is often the marker for smashing the “make a change” button.  Some people are great at setting goals and have the follow-through to achieve them.  Some are a tad wobbly, afraid and just slide into the status quo and kind of muck around forever. Some try to take off …

jumpstart

What if the notion of getting unstuck is simply overwhelming? I asked Libby Gill, CEO of the business coaching and brand strategy firm Libby Gill & Company for some steps on how to get started.  Libby provided the following exercise to. . . Jumpstart Your Year with a Bold Risk Sometimes we need a little …

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Technology Can’t Hug Back!

Erica W. Jamieson
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This week is about Family Time and friends! This story is about disconnecting. This post is intentionally short because you shouldn’t be hidden behind a screen this week. Go light up the faces of your family and friends by giving them the gift of you. Turn off your technology! The next seven days, between Christmas …

Food is Love, A Thanksgiving Story

Erica W. Jamieson
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Thanksgiving

Picture my kitchen: green granite, white wood cabinets, a center island. Used to be that two children came downstairs each morning to this kitchen. One before the next, forty minutes apart. They both sat on the same side of the island, on the brown wooden stool from Pottery Barn that had been empty at six …

Wine-klatch

Imagine dinner with the daughters of your mom’s BFFs!  Oh yeah!!  We have seen each other randomly over the years, but never all together and never with the wine flowing. Is there such a thing as a wine-klatch? We met in our old neighborhood, where one of the daughters bought the home she grew up …

adoptive son

My husband and I arrived in Addis Ababa, the capital of Ethiopia. It was our first trip to Africa. Our travel from Minneapolis to Amsterdam to Addis, with a one hour layover in Sudan had gone smoothly. But after twenty hours of travel, we were tired. It was almost like giving birth, except this time …

First comes baby

A backwards love story of baby, divorce, love & marriage. First time I saw her was when I walked into my wife’s workplace to bring lunch. I knew everyone there but she was a new face. “Who’s the new girl?” I asked. “Oh she’s a temp, part-timer, nobody important.” It turned out that the New …

Best of friends

The older I get, the more I recognize not only the value of keeping in touch with “old” friends, but the absolute necessity of it. I’ve been doing slightly better in this area the past few years, but there is always room for improvement. I recently enjoyed a movie and dinner with a lifelong friend from …

tips for good loving

To infuse Valentine’s Day with good loving we spend a lot of energy on planning. There are the cards hidden in sock drawers, boxes of chocolates bought and bouquets of roses ordered. Then there are the reservations needed for dinner dates followed by hours of research into best speakeasies for late night dancing. But here’s a thought – how …

Nightwear life too big for an Airstream!

Laura Lyster Mensh dreams of her empty nest life in an Airstream.  Freeing herself from stuff, she’s cleaned out most everything & is proud of her newly streamlined shelves. As she notes, the trash bags going out of her house are heavier than the shopping bags coming in! But what to do about her overstuffed pajama …

Not having Children allows me to dream up the perfect child

What would my path have looked like with children in it? Sitting by the gate at Logan, held captive by the airline’s whim, watching a steady stream of half-dressed, or overdressed passengers walk, run, and toddle by, the place remains, somehow, stale and lifeless. Until a little princess, right out of a storybook, walks into …

Cox Family Vacation

My youngest child – nine years younger than her closest sibling — is that kid with whom I would have NEVER let my oldest children play. By age 2, she was singing inappropriate song lyrics. Her older brother thought it was really funny to teach her the words to Kesha’s Tik Tok. By 5, she …

4 Solutions To Dish-Duty Equity

Laura Lyster Mensh
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  Laura Lyster-Mensh confronts the final frontier for the modern feminist mother – Dish-Duty equity when your adult children live at home. Calling dish duty the lowest domestic position, she offers four solutions to managing the kitchen sink pile-up in today’s modern family of working adults, parents and children! Listen Here and share your family’s solutions in the …

Women over fifty are mobilizing! I find myself distracted lately at coffee shops where young women are working together, plucking at their phones, planning and scheming for new campaigns or other projects. It makes me want to shout. Watch Out, we are coming for your youth! Women over fifty may be getting older, but we …

photo credit rawpixel Beware: old people having sex and they may be your parents! Empty nesting was supposed to mean running naked through the house. Sex with open doors. Kissing in the kitchen without the threat of a child’s scorn and loud, “Ew, that’s gross!” Instead, you find yourself with house-mates, your adult children! If …

Experience

Turning 50 I was not pleased with turning fifty. In fact, leading up to my fiftieth birthday I changed personal trainers because I thought, well, now that I’m 50 I need to train with someone who understands the aging body. I actually googled the phrases geriatric trainers, old people’s work out, and personal trainers for senior citizens. …

mirror

Something has happened. I have stopped looking into mirrors. Or perhaps, mirrors have stopped being kind to me. I turned 50 in 2016 but without the fanfare I envisioned when I had celebrated my fortieth birthday. In my blessed 40’s (the new 28’s?), I felt relatively secure in my profession, in my relationship with my …

Hen Lit

When did I stop writing about the angst of torrid love, motherhood, wandering husbands, and terrible bosses? About the time, probably, that I got bored with the angst and became a hen. The transition was subtle in me and in my writing. It’s not that I didn’t still pay attention to love, children, and work. …

Hot Flashes

Not long ago I sent a birthday card to my high school best friend on her 46th birthday. It had a picture of 4 firemen jumping out of a cake. On the inside it said, “They’re here to put out your hot flashes.” This was so hilarious to me I couldn’t wait for her to …

Watch This – Fiftiness in Conversation

Erica W. Jamieson
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Optimist

Fiftiness in Conversation: Waking An Optimist Thank you to the women of Fiftiness – my early R&D group for letting me facilitate and record them in a conversation about being over 50! In this video I asked whether you wake an optimist or a pessimist. I had been walking in the mornings to Rihanna’s song …

Unconditional Love

Still Celebrating National Poetry Month Oh, how we love our pets! What better way to express their unconditional love of us than through poetry! I give you . . .   I Don’t Floss I don’t floss, I pee in the shower and last night I ate an entire gallon of slow churned, chocolate fudge …

peri-menopause

I Am Pink Hot Tamale Red! If it’s April, it’s National Poetry Month! We are so excited at Fiftiness to celebrate National Poetry Month by introducing poetry to our site. What a perfect form of the written, or spoken word, to give us perspective on the universal truths of being a woman over fifty. Introducing Julie Grass . …

what to wear

The Dos & Don’ts of What to Wear in Your 50’s turns the notion of style guides on its head. As Michelle Combs points out, it’s not about what you put on, it’s how best to wear your own self esteem. Making the list of no-no’s for Michelle are shame and regret and the weight of …

Sexual Being

I was once a hot mess. I know this because I’ve asked old friends what they thought of me back then. There was no rhyme or reason for my behavior in my teens and early twenties. I was completely unaware that I was, in my own way, desperately trying to work through my damage. Sometimes …

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Jane Ganahl: A Literary Earthquake

Kimberly Cunningham
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Jane Ganahl's passion for words equaled only by her passion for stray cats

Founder of San Francisco’s Litquake It is hard to imagine Jane Ganahl being described as frightening. She stands little over five feet with the kind of red hair photographs can never capture. Her lipstick is perfection; she floats through the oak double doors of the Town and Country Starbucks. But her intellectual breadth intimidates me; …

Nina Sadowsky is a best-selling fiction author who didn’t pen her first novel – Just Fall — until she was in her 50s. Now, a television show based on that book is in the works, and her second novel – the Burial Society – is due out in 2017. Nina’s journey to author-hood was partly …

If you ever thought that the celebration of Earth Day doesn’t accomplish anything, meet Lisa Kaas-Boyle, environmental attorney, mother, and activist on behalf of a just and sustainable future. Lisa started her mission to save the planet on the very first Earth Day when she was just 6 years old and she has been relentless …

I met Rima Simon in 1982 when I was working as the head of West Coast PR for Showtime/The Movie Channel. At that time, she was married to a prominent comedy writer and was executive assistant to the then head of programming, Peter Chernin (who became Chairman of FOX and a prolific producer). Rima and …